Top 5 Social Books You Need to Get Your Hands On in Malaysia
For introverted people and those who struggle with making conversations, they sometimes need a guide to handle social obstacles. There are thousands of books specifically written for these kinds of people. Extroverted readers can also read these books in order to get the most out of networking and other kinds of interactions. Here are the top 5 best books to improve social skills.
How to Win Friends and Influence People
This book was written by Dale Carnegie in 1936 and is considered as one of the best-selling social and self-help books ever published. It covers a wide range of topics like how to increase your popularity, increase influence and earning power, and how to persuade and win people to your way of thinking. It also includes rules on how to make your home life happier. The rules are to not nag, not criticize, give honest appreciations, be courteous, and to pay little attentions around the household. This book is the inspiration for many parody literature like How to Talk Dirty and Influence People and How to Win Friends and Alienate People.
People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, And Resolve Conflicts is a 1986 social skills book written by academic Robert Bolton. The president of a communication firm in New York, Bolton discusses improving your conversational skills to better your personal and professional relationships. The book tells readers how to pay attention to body language, use their listening skills, and to polish their conflict resolution. It also discusses how one can use silence to their advantage and use it as an effective and valuable communication tool.
This book is also known as PeopleSmart: Developing Your Interpersonal Intelligence. Written by Ph.D titleholders, Mel Silberman and Freda Hansburg in 2000, this book focuses on how to improve one’s IQ, or interpersonal quotient, in order to enhance other aspects of one’s life. This book contains eight essential skills of interpersonal intelligence and is delivered in an easy-to-read format. It contains a realistic four-step plan for self-improvements along with creative exercises, case studies, and tools.
The Art of Deception: Controlling the Human Element of Security
Authors Kevin Mitnick, William Simon, and Steve Wozniak combines social skill guidance with technological aspects. It discusses how social engineering allows people to psychologically manipulate others into doing what they want others to do. The book includes real and fictional examples like how one can gain access to a restricted area by approaching a door while holding a stack of items, relying on the kindness and propensity of others to hold the door open for them.
This book is quite different than the other books listed here. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, written by Susan Cain, targets people who can’t follow traditional social guidance books. Cain believes that the Western Culture takes introverts for granted because of their quieter characteristics. She argues that not everyone can be as persuasive and talkative and can be as successful without having to convert themselves into extroverts. Cain has released a sequel to the book called Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts in 2016 that caters more to children, teens, and parents.